Mums heartfelt letter to doctor who told her to abort her Down`s syndrome daughter

June 14, 2016
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Doctors often need to deliver a difficult diagnosis to their patients, who would naturally want to be offered some form of support and encouragement. That is exactly what a Florida Mother named Courtney needed when her Doctor diagnosed her unborn child with Down Syndrome.

Instead, she received quite the opposite when her Doctor not only suggested that she terminate the pregnancy, but continued to pressure her to do so even after she refused. The Doctor claimed that the entire family’s quality of life would be at stake.

Her beautiful daughter Emmy is now 15 months old and has recently helped her Mom drop of a very important letter in the mail – a letter to the Doctor who repeatedly suggested the abortion.

It has taken Courtney a long time to build up the courage to finally get the thoughts off her chest and write the letter. The letter has been dropped off in the mail addressed to the Doctor and Courtney has also shared the content of the letter on the Parker Myles Facebook Page, where it has been shared close to 14,000 times.

Here is what Courtney and Emmy had to say:

“Dear Doctor,

A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her child during her sonograms, he would comment, “He’s perfect.” Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said, “I told you. He’s perfect.”

Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend’s experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have had. I wish you would have been that doctor.

I came to you during the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious and in complete despair. I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we terminate our child. I told you her name, and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy.

From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth.

My child was perfect.

I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad. I’m sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual awe. I’m sad the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears don’t always give you pause. I’m sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I’m mostly sad you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.

Because, you see, Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life, she’s touched the hearts of thousands. She’s given us a purpose and a joy that is impossible to express. She’s given us bigger smiles, more laughter and sweeter kisses than we’ve ever known. She’s opened our eyes to true beauty and pure love.

So my prayer is that no other mommy will have to go through what I did. My prayer is that you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every sonogram. And my prayer is when you see that next baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother’s womb, you will look at that mommy and see me then tell her the truth: “Your child is absolutely perfect.”

This letter has clearly taken a lot of courage from this Mom, but what a powerful and necessary message it has sent!


  1. Candice R Keele

    June 14, 2016 at 7:14 pm

    I’m sorry to bother but I’ve been waiting 6 months for my safety kit supply for my kids! What is going on?

  2. Heather Martin

    June 15, 2016 at 3:39 am

    She is sooooo cute!!!

  3. Brenda Shays Ortiz

    June 15, 2016 at 11:36 pm

    Yes she is perfect

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