Mom Fires Back After Woman Makes Rude Comment When She Sees Toddler’s Ostomy Bag

June 9, 2017
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When Dallas Lynn gave birth to her son Jameus, she never expected to hear about a rare condition called Hirschsprung’s disease, which is a condition of the large intestine and is characterized by difficult bowel movements. As a result, individuals need to wear ostomy bags to help expel waste from the body.

Jameus has been wearing them his whole life and it actually saved his life when his colon ruptured. The mother knows that he will likely wear these ostomy bags for the rest of his life, but wants to teach him to love himself – even with the bags attached to his body.

She was livid when a stranger at Walmart made rude comments about Jameus’ bags, calling them “repulsing” when they were accidentally exposed.

Dallas shared the experience on Facebook. In the post, she noted her son’s brave journey and pleads for others to be kinder and more considerate when speaking about others who may be fighting secret battles.

She wrote on Facebook:

“Tonight, we were in Walmart standing in a long line waiting to check out. My sweet 2-year-old wanted me to hold him. As I picked him up out of the cart, his shirt came up exposing his two stomas and bags on his stomach. Typically, I have a onesie underneath his shirt but tonight I just got him dressed quickly to run to the store. The onesie helps to keep his bags in one place and makes it harder for him to tug and pull them off.”

“There was an older woman in line behind me who caught a glimpse and shrieked a little before she said to me, “Why in the world would you let someone do that to him?” I turned around, speechless, and just looked at her before she continued and asked why he had them. I gave her the short version and basically said “his colon didn’t finish forming so he needed them.” I left out that he had a rare disease called Hirschsprung’s disease because I was a little annoyed from her first statement. She then goes “Well I am sorry but I just think that is so ‘repulsing.’ Can you please keep his shirt down?” At this point I just wanted to shake this woman and scream “What is wrong with you?!” But instead, I told her to have a good night and went to another line. So now I’m sharing this picture, because there is nothing repulsive about my son. Stomas and ostomies seem to be a taboo, when in reality, over 500,000 Americans have one. My sons disease may be rare, but his stomas are not. 

So here’s a little education for anyone who doesn’t know about stomas and ostomies. An stoma is an surgically created opening that allows body to expel waste. Both of my sons are from his colon, but stomas can be from your ileum (small intestine), or bladder. Was this the first choice of a life I would have chosen for my son? Absolutely not. But this was his only shot at life. When he was 2 weeks old, his colon ruptured. It left him with a life-threatening infection that nearly killed him. His stoma saved his life. There is a very good chance he will have these for the rest of his life and if he does, it will be my job to teach him a positive body image. (As its all parents jobs to do that). It will be my job to teach him to love himself, and his bags. Had he been a couple years older and been able to understand the ignorance the lady was spewing in line behind us, how much of a negative impact do you think that would have had on him? See what that woman doesn’t understand is, when my son is healthy, he is no different than any other 2-year-old. He runs, plays, swims, and goes to daycare. When he’s healthy, you wouldn’t be able to look at him and know he’s had over 20 surgeries and procedures. You wouldn’t know that he’s got more ahead in his future. You wouldn’t know he gets painful home dilation and irrigation treatments twice a day, every day. You wouldn’t know that every day a catheter is put into his stoma to “feed” it stool twice a day in the hopes of growing his colon. He’s my heart. He is so funny, and full of personality. He is sweet and loving and kind but also a little ball of fire. Please be kind and choose your words wisely, especially should you choose to comment about something that is none of your business. Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about, and my son is winning his. “

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