Asking our children to share is one of the most common lessons all parents try to teach their children. In this instance, a Mom has shared her view that it’s not always the right thing to do – and her post has gone viral!
Alanya Kolberg was at the park with her son Carson, who brought a few action figures to share with a friend he was meeting. As soon as they got to the park, a group of boys approached Carson demanding that he share his toy. The interaction inspired Kolberg to take to Social media and vent her frustration.
“MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS,” she starts off her post.
Kolberg explained that her son was approached by about 6 boys all at once, demanding that her son share his toys. When he looked at his mom, she explained that he didn’t have to share.
“You can tell them no, Carson,” she said. “Just say no. You don’t have to say anything else.”
As soon as the boy said no, the boys ran to her to say that her son wasn’t sharing. The Mom then explained to the kids, “He doesn’t have to share with you. He said no. If he wants to share, he will.”
Her words got some dirty looks from other parents but in her post, she explains her reasoning in her now viral post:
“If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No!
“Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.”
“So really, while you’re giving me dirty looks, presumably thinking my son and I are rude, whose manners are lacking here? The person reluctant to give his 3 toys away to 6 strangers, or the 6 strangers demanding to be given something that doesn’t belong to them, even when the owner is obviously uncomfortable?”
“The goal is to teach our children how to function as adults,” Kolberg explains. “While I do know some adults who clearly never learned how to share as children, I know far more who don’t know how to say no to people, or how to set boundaries, or how to practice self-care. Myself included.”
The Mother makes a good point. While it may be a good idea to share, there are times when you don’t have to give up everything you have!
“The next time your snowflake runs to you, upset that another child isn’t sharing, please remember that we don’t live in a world where it’s conducive to give up everything you have to anyone just because they said so, and I’m not going to teach my kid that that’s the way it works.”
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