Tragic News: Eleven-Year-Old Girl Has Killed Herself Over Bullying, Family Says

November 11, 2017
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A South Carolina girl’s family says that she shot herself to death – because she was being bullied at school, CBS affiliate WTOC-TV reports.

Toni Rivers, who was only 11-years-old, told five of her friends that “she just couldn’t do this anymore, and she was going home, and she was killing herself,” her aunt, Maria Petersen, told reporters.

Hampton County sheriff’s deputies were dispatched out to the family’s home late in the afternoon on Oct. 25 following Toni’s 14-year-old sister calling 911, says an incident report.

Petersen said that Toni died three days later.

The state’s Law Enforcement Division is currently investigating the death.

Toni’s stepfather, Robert Thomas, reportedly said that the gun used in the shooting belonged to the girl.

He also mentioned that the family’s guns were stored separately from the bullets and that they’re kept away from the children.

Toni’s mother, Amy Thomas, told the station that she had reported the bullying to her daughter’s school for about two months and that she called the school four times, just two days before the shooting.

Hampton County School District 1 Superintendent Ronald Wilcox told reporters that he was advised to not comment on the situation or the family’s allegations.

Is Facing a Car Seat Forward Before 2 Illegal in Your State?

 

It’s no secret that rear-facing car seats are a big pain.

The cons are that you can’t see your child’s face (except through a cleverly aligned plastic mirror) and it’s impossible to hand them anything without feeling like you might be dropping it on their heads.

As your kid gets closer to the age of 2, their legs are so long that they can actually touch the backseat headrest with their feet.

When it gets to this point, you really start to wonder if rear-facing is really the best way for your baby to ride in the car. Right?

And is this really the safest position for them?

Well, now the law says it’s best if they stay rear-facing until they turn 2 –  but is that a recommendation or is it just the law?

Eight states have already made rear-facing until 2 not just a recommendation, but a law.

The following states: New Jersey, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, South Carolina, Rhode Island, CaliforniaOregon, and Connecticut all have new legislation which makes turning your child’s car seat forward-facing before the age of 2 illegal.

Five more states — Texas, Nebraska, New York, Massachusetts, and Washington— are also working on passing similar legislation soon.

Pop Sugar Moms recently spoke to Dr. Benjamin Hoffman, a pediatrician and car seat safety expert. They wanted to know if the rear-facing position posed a risk to children with long legs, since this is probably the most common reason that parents want to turn their children forward-facing before the age of 2.

Parents are often inclined to switch their kids to face forward as they get older. They like to see their children’s faces, and they worry about their child’s comfort, especially the legs,” he said.

Many parents worry if their child’s feet are touching the seat or that their legs appear squished that it automatically means their child is uncomfortable, or that they may injure their legs. Our experience is that kids will do what it takes to find a way to be comfortable. As far as injuries, it turns out that arms and legs are almost never inured when rear-facing, so there is really nothing to worry about!”

They also spoke with Daphne Oz, former cohost for The Chew, who recently partnered with Chicco for its TurnAfter2 campaign. The purpose of the campaign is to raise awareness about the importance of rear-facing until the age of 2. The idea is to use social media in a positive way in which to educate parents by posting pictures of your own kids riding rear-facing until 2 with the hashtag #TurnAfter2.

Daphne has two kids: a 1-year-old and a 3-year-old and is pregnant with her third child. She explained to PopSugar Moms how she, like many other parents, turned her first child forward-facing before the age of 2 because she was worried about her child’s legs.

I didn’t realize that kids weren’t supposed to be forward-facing until the age of 2,”she said. “Philomena was so tall for her age. I did what a lot of parents do and looked at her legs and they seemed cramped to me. She was kicking the back of the seat all of the time. So at about 20 months, I turned her forward-facing. Her legs looked so uncomfortable. What if she crunched her legs?”

Daphe continued, sharing the scary realities of making this change before the child is old enough despite her own initial concerns with her daughter’s legs.

“But the scary reality is that getting your legs crunched in an accident is not nearly as potentially life threatening as a brain stem injury or a head injury or a neck injury. These car seats are designed to keep kids as safe as possible in a rear-facing position because it is the most effective way to protect these absolutely vital elements of their head, neck, shoulders, and back. You don’t even want to think about that, but that is the reality. The reality is if you are looking to keep your child safe in a car seat, research shows that, God forbid you were to be in an accident, rear-facing is absolutely the safest way to keep your child out of harm.

Luckily, my son John, who is not 2 yet, is still rear-facing. That is in a large part because I’ve become so well acquainted with the research around why kids should stay rear-facing until at least the age of 2. It’s also part of being a partner of Chicco’s in this TurnAfter2 campaign that they are doing.

That’s why I’m so excited to be a part of the TurnAfter2 campaign because I know that as a parent, when I’m scrolling through Instagram, I do get good ideas. I get great recommendations for toys and I get good recommendations for cute outfits. I look at my mom friends that I follow to see what fun activities they’ve been doing. I love the idea that as part of that conversation we could infuse a bit of very accessible, very actionable, positive parenting information in a totally nonjudgmental way.”

So if you have been thinking about turning your child to forward-facing before 2, make sure that you are abiding by your state laws.

And even if it is not yet the law in your state, consider the benefits of keeping your child rear-facing until the age of 2.

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